Have you ever done this to your spouse?!?

so...your spouse says they will be home and they don't show up. you send a text saying where are u and they don't answer would you call? i was stood up tonight... and he refused to answer his phone or texts and i am slightly annoyed. how do u get it across a thick person's head that this is unacceptable without nagging and calling seventy thousand times? i sometimes feel like even if they dont answer, it will make me feel better even if im aggravating them...and i want to change that:)